The Four Elements of Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is the capability of a person to manage and control his or her emotions and possess the ability to control the emotions of others as well. Emotional intelligence or EI is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions, and those of the people around you. People with a high degree of emotional intelligence know what they’re feeling, what their emotions mean, and how these emotions can affect other people.

How well acquainted are you with each of these resources?

1. Self-awareness: The ability to recognize your emotions and their impact while using gut feelings to guide your decisions.

Can you attend a meeting and quickly sense that something is not as it seems? Formerly known as “intuition”, this instinctual knowledge is based on emotional intelligence.

2. Self-management: The ability to control your emotions and behavior and adapt to changing circumstances.

Can you adequately harness your anger, disappointment or fear so your emotions don’t interfere with your ability to listen or problem solve? Do you know when you need help, can you ask for it?

3. Social awareness: The ability to sense, understand, and react to the emotions of others and to feel comfortable socially.

Can you tell when you’re unintentionally making another person uncomfortable or when someone who is smiling is really upset?

4. Relationship management: The ability to inspire, influence, and connect to others and to manage conflict.

Can you remain calm, energized and focused in the face of another’s distress or during an upsetting situation? You should ensure to manage your emotions and practice self control at all times.

Remember you can handle every situation all you need is the will to hang in and succeed.

Modifying Social Media Use To Improve Mental Health

Social media consumption has taken a major part of our daily life as statistics shows that a person spends an average 5 hours daily on social media which contributes to about 15% of our active time daily. Here are some ways to modify your habits and improve your mood:

There is a lot going on at the moment. The pandemic has literally changed a lot of things. No more hangouts, no more partying, no more movie date, no more hugs, no more handshakes, movement restricted. This has been tagged “The New Normal”. There’s no doubt the new normal has been frustrating, tiring, and also, it is toxic for us. Amid all of these, a particular platform has become our companion, best friend, a news source, name it. Well, for some people, it has always been. Apart from the pandemic, the world has also been dealing with other pressing issues. From racism, to rape, to the killings of innocent souls. If you tag the year 2020 “The Year of Revolution”, you are not far away from the truth. We wake up to read several breaking news on social media almost every week, each with its own hashtags. All these can take a toll on some people’s mental health. Therefore, here’s how you can modify your social media use to protect and improve your mental health during this “revolutionary” year:

Reduce time online: Setting a specific time one needs to spend online might be hard for most of us, but being more mindful of your social media use can have beneficial results on your mood and focus.

Change your focus: Many of us go on social media out of habit, some to get specific information, some to see what’s trending, some to share new photos, and so on. But by focusing on your motivation for logging on, you can not only reduce the time you spend on social media, you can also improve your experience and avoid many of the negative aspects. So, whenever you are accessing social media, clarify your motivation for doing so.

Express gratitude: Expressing gratitude about the good and important things in life can be a welcome relief to the intimidation, depression, and discontent which are sometimes generated by social media. Reflect on the great memories and positives in life and also practice mindfulness.